Self-Care: Loving Yourself so You Can Love Others Well

When we think about the greatest commandment, “Love God and love your neighbor as yourself,” it’s easy to overlook the last part: as yourself. The truth is, it's hard to love others well when we aren’t loving ourselves. Taking care of our bodies, minds, and spirits is essential if we want to pour into others. If you’re anything like me, you might tend to put yourself last—but self-care isn't selfish; it's necessary.

1. Spend Time with God Daily My top recommendation for learning to love yourself is to establish a daily routine with God. Spending time reading the affirmations in Scripture about who He says we are is life-changing. When we know how deeply we are loved by Him, it’s easier to extend that love to others. Whether it's a full morning quiet time or a quick prayer during a busy afternoon, make that space for God. (Need help getting started? Check out my Quiet Time/Bible Bag Post for some great tools!)

2. Create a Playlist of Songs That Make You Happy Music has a way of lifting our spirits and energizing us. I love creating playlists filled with songs that bring joy and peace. If you work at a desk job, keep the playlist open on YouTube in another tab while you work. You’ll be amazed at how much more cheerful you feel by simply listening to tunes that make you smile!

3. Schedule “Me” Time We all need moments to unwind and recharge. Whether it's reading a book, working on a jigsaw puzzle, or binge-watching a show you love, carve out at least 10–15 minutes for yourself every day. If daily time feels impossible, try for a few times a week. When we allow ourselves time to relax, we fill our cups, so we have more to give others.

4. Move Your Body and Eat Well This is advice I need to take myself! Moving our bodies and fueling them with good food isn't just for physical health; it lifts our mental and emotional health too. Exercising doesn’t have to be overwhelming—whether it’s a quick walk around the block or a 15-minute home workout, moving your body boosts your mood and gives you more energy to love and serve others well.

5. Get Plenty of Sleep Set a bedtime routine that helps you wind down. This could include reading a book, journaling, or even ending your night with a devotional (check out my favorite devotional picks). One major sleep disruptor? Scrolling on your phone. Consider putting your phone away at least 30 minutes before bed to help your mind rest better.

Bonus Self-Care Tips

Here are a few extra ways to prioritize self-care in your daily routine:

• Declutter Your Space: Clean, organized surroundings can promote peace and relaxation. Start small—maybe just your desk or your nightstand.

• Hydrate: Drink more water! Sometimes we overlook how much staying hydrated can impact our mood and energy.

• Say No: It’s okay to decline things that don’t bring you joy or serve your priorities. Your time is precious, and you can’t do everything!

Self-care isn’t just bubble baths and spa days (although those are great too!). It’s about doing things that nurture your mind, body, and spirit so that you can live with purpose and extend God’s love to others. I hope these tips inspire you to start prioritizing yourself a little more—you’re worth it!